Three days to step out of the old story, and feel who you're becoming.
A one-to-one retreat with John and Linda in Kent. Deep personal work, guided meditation and live biofeedback, so the change isn't just something you understand. It's something you can see, feel and take home.
For when you're ready to stop managing the pattern, and change who's running it.
You understand it, but it keeps happening
You can explain your patterns: people-pleasing, overthinking, holding back. Yet they still run the show.
Life has handed you a turning point
A health diagnosis, divorce, bereavement, children leaving home, or a major career or life transition, and you want to look at you, not just the situation.
You've built a good life, and want more of yourself in it
From the outside it all works. Inside, you know you're living a smaller version of what's possible.
You want depth, privacy and undivided attention
Not a group, not a workshop. Time and space that are completely yours, with two people fully focused on you.
If you're in crisis or in the very early, raw days after a loss or diagnosis, a retreat may not be the right next step yet. Tell us where you are and we'll be honest about what would help most.
Insight opens the door. Three uninterrupted days give you time to walk through it.
How your identity is creating your life
We help you see the story you've been living from, and how it quietly shapes your choices, your relationships and what keeps happening.
What the old you has been doing for you
Every pattern is trying to give you something: safety, love, worth or belonging. When you see what it's protecting, you no longer need to fight it.
A new way to meet that need, practised until it feels like you
Through meditation, emotional rehearsal and real-time feedback, you practise being the new you while we're beside you, so it's familiar before you go home.
Live biofeedback, as part of the work
During meditations and sessions you can wear simple, comfortable sensors that show what's happening in your brain and heart as it happens. It turns something invisible into something you can see, and helps you learn to find that state again on your own. When your heart rhythm and brainwaves settle into a calm, coherent pattern, your body is no longer on guard, and that's when it becomes most receptive to change.
Your brainwaves, in real time
A light headband tracks your brainwave activity as you meditate and reflect. You can watch your mind settle, and notice what helps it get there.
Your heart rhythm and coherence
A small sensor shows your heart rhythm. When it becomes smooth and ordered, called coherence, you can see it and learn to recreate it.
We see coherence as the body's way of saying “I'm safe.” Instead of bracing against change, your system settles and opens, so a new way of feeling and being has room to take hold.
Feeling the new self before it arrives
Our guided meditations help you step into who you're becoming, with gentle cues that bring the feeling into your body, not just your head.
Biofeedback is used with your consent and is a learning tool, not a medical test or diagnosis. Readings aren't labelled with your personal details and aren't kept after the retreat.
Before, during, and long after
Preparing the ground
- A conversation to make sure it's the right fit
- Pre-work to start noticing your patterns
- Meditations to settle in before you arrive
Three days, just for you
- Deep one-to-one work with John and Linda
- Meditation with live Muse EEG and HeartMath feedback
- Practising the new you until it feels familiar
Making it stick
- Three one-to-one follow-up sessions
- A 32-day stabilisation series
- 30 days of WhatsApp support with Linda
- 3 months in our community, with live calls
Spacious, personal and paced for you
Arrive in yourself
A guided meditation with HeartMath, so you start the day settled and present.
Deep one-to-one work
Exploring the identity behind what's happening in your life, and what it has been trying to give you.
Embodiment and rehearsal
Meditation with live EEG feedback, practising how the new you feels, thinks and responds.
Time to integrate
Quiet time to rest, walk and let the day land, with a short reflection to close.
Every retreat is shaped around you, so your days may look different.
Everything you need to change, and to keep it
Your one-to-one retreat
- 3 to 3½ days of private retreat time with John and LindaHosted near us in Kent, at a venue agreed when you book
- Three 90-minute one-to-one follow-up sessions with John and Linda after your retreat
- Pre-work, and guided meditations for before and after your retreat
- Live Muse EEG and HeartMath biofeedback during your retreat
- A 32-day stabilisation series once you're home
- 30 days of WhatsApp support with Linda
- 3 months' access to our community and community calls
A 50% deposit secures your dates. The balance is due 30 days before your retreat.
Enquire about datesOur work is coaching and education, not medical or psychological treatment. It works alongside, never instead of, care from your GP or other health professionals.
John & Linda El-Mokadem
After seven years of chronic fatigue, John's recovery came through insight, and led to a peer-reviewed study and more than 20 years of guiding change. Years later, Linda's journey through stage four cancer treatment showed what insight alone couldn't: the power of feeling, practice and rehearsing who you're becoming.
On retreat, you get both halves: the insight that helps you see differently, and the embodiment that helps it become who you are.
Before you enquire
Do I need any meditation experience?
No. We guide every meditation, and the biofeedback helps you notice what's working even if you've never meditated before.
What happens to my EEG and HeartMath readings?
They're used only during your retreat, with your consent. They aren't labelled with your personal details and aren't kept afterwards. You can choose not to use the sensors at any time.
I'm living with a health condition. Is this right for me?
Many people come to us at a turning point, including a diagnosis. Our work is coaching and education, alongside your medical care, never instead of it. We'll talk it through with you before you book, and again when you arrive.
Where is the retreat, and where do I stay?
Retreats are hosted near us in Kent, at a venue we agree when you book. Travel, accommodation and meals aren't included, and we're happy to talk through options with you.
What support do I get afterwards?
Three one-to-one follow-up sessions with John and Linda, a 32-day stabilisation series, 30 days of WhatsApp support with Linda, and three months in our community with live calls, so the change keeps growing once you're home.
How do payment and cancellation work?
A 50% deposit secures your dates, with the balance due 30 days before your retreat. You can cancel for a full refund within 14 days of booking. The full policy is in the retreat terms you'll see before booking.
Ready to meet who you're becoming?
Tell us a little about where you are and what's drawing you to a retreat. We'll arrange a call to see if it's the right fit.
Prefer email? support@breakthroughthat.com
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The small print
Our work is coaching and education, not medical or psychological treatment. It works alongside, never instead of, care from your GP or other health professionals.
